“If we don’t get our civility back, we’re in trouble.” Emmylou Harris
Civility is making a huge comeback as more and more of us are becoming fed up with unkindness, unprofessionalism, and unbecoming language.
Being civil is a choice that I encourage all of my clients and readers to commit to. Saying you’re civil is different that actually being civil.
Look around and it seems that the heart of civility is barely beating. Sadly, we have become civ-ill.
So what are we to do? How do we revive civility?
Here’s how it works:
In the next day, commit to actively conducting yourself with courtesy in mind. Open a door, send a thank you note, let the person in who’s madly signalling in traffic (you know the one), offer to help someone, phone your mom, reconnect with an old friend, smile more, listen. You get the gist.
In the next week, commit to doing things that will enhance your level of professionalism. Show up on time, dress up a little for work, refresh your voice mail greeting, adopt an enthusiastic attitude, invite a new colleague for coffee, offer compliments freely, contribute willingly, overdeliver.
In the next month, commit to finding ways to show yourself, the earth and other people more respect. Slow down when you’re driving, go for a walk outdoors, read a thought-provoking book, communicate using only positive language, enjoy some quiet time alone, volunteer, pull over to text, figure out what you stand for, walk away from gossip, pick up a piece of litter, take a risk.
CPR. Courtesy. Professionalism. Respect. Once you’ve finished the cycle, start again. It’s that simple, and it’s the kind thing to do.